To weaken the power and influence of hierarchy conservators, or HiCons, or to get them out of our way, we can use one or more of these ten strategies:
1. Stop listening to the top.
Now is the time to realize that people at the top are clueless and to stop listening to them. Instead, we turn our heads OUT – not UP – for fresh views and perspectives outside the hierarchy.
We are programmed from birth to pay attention to the needs and views of people at the top, and to trust them for guidance. However, their decisions are rarely based on information, compassion, understanding, truth, or the real perspectives and needs of the rest of us, or the country as a whole.
2. Remember — it's NOT just another opinion
In an effort to be fair, we often view top-of-the-hierarchy perspectives as personal opinions, and think we need to compromise, even if the top sees no need to compromise with us. We compromise with people who are building hierarchies, then wonder why our hierarchies continue. Compromising with people building hierarchies only builds more hierarchies.
Trying to convince the clueless top to come around wastes valuable time and resources and our anger and frustration decreases our effectiveness.
3. Name the game
If we encounter a roadblock, we keep the conversation on our frame of hierarchies/status quo versus fairness and equality/change. Historical trends and the national ideology of liberty and justice for all are on our side. We move beyond discussion of differences of opinion and “moral” argument. We call the game on our turf.
We no longer point fingers or make accusations of wrong or right or judge character. Our questions: Are you building a hierarchy, or not? Are you creating a barrier to the best of American values, or not? We back up our answers with the consistent and predictable attitudes and behaviors that we observe.
4. Avoid frontal fights
People at the top take challenges to their positions very seriously. They act quickly and forcefully to confront threats, especially frontal attacks. The rules of hierarchies allow those at the top to justify using any and whatever tactics keep power at the top. Even the smallest question can feel like a threatening attack. Accusations of lying, lapses of morality, bad character or other personal attacks keep us engaged in open battles.
We do not argue in their arena where they have the advantage. We avoid a tug-of-war of different opinions. Instead we move their energy into our frame of reference.
When we encounter a HiCon moving toward us, we move their energy into our frame of reference. We stay centered on what we know and can depend on – HiCons support the hierarchies that are opposite of our national ideology, and their positions in those hierarchies render them clueless. Once that message is commonplace, we will be able to deflect their moves with minimal effort.
5. Predict their moves
HiCons act out in consistent and predictable ways. When we become familiar with these actions, we are no longer surprised and caught off guard. We expect the actions of HiCons and are ready to deal with them on our terms.
The roles of hierarchy conservators are especially easy to spot because they are obvious from the vantage point of the rest of us, who can see the entire hierarchy. The consistent attitudes and behaviors are described in the CLUES.
We can predict the strategies that HiCons will use when a personal conversation or presentation does not support their hierarchy:
We lose ground the longer the conversations continue. HiCons expect us to be tolerant of, listen to, and incorporate their perspectives. However, they do not feel the need to listen to us. HiCons easily throw out suggestions without a second thought.
6. Unravel their rhetoric
Unraveling the rhetoric of the top is rewarding and entertaining, especially with HiCons who are masters at weaving intricate webs. Our knowledge of hierarchies gives us the skills to reveal and disarm them.
The exaggerations, half-truths, doublespeak, twisted "facts," and outright lies of HiCons can appear reasonable, even compelling, especially when used out of context.
7. Set them up
Once we pinpoint a typical top-of-a-hierarchy attitude, we create a situation that leaves HiCons no other option than to either back out or expose their true motives.
We wear our best innocent smiles as we go along with their rhetoric. Meanwhile, we substitute a scenario based on what it would look like if they were really promoting fairness. If HiCons are indeed promoting hierarchies, they cannot disagree with our substitution without exposing their hierarchy.
Here's an example.
Creationists want their Biblical creation story to be taught alongside evolution. They use a claim of fairness and inclusion to gain support.
We suspect they are proselytizing. We identify the CLUE "Higher people assume that everyone wants and needs to be like them.”
8. Reveal their true colors
People such as Ghandi and Martin Luther King, Jr, have used passive resistance for social change for centuries. Passive resistance works because, given enough rope, people who are vehement about conserving hierarchies will expose themselves in unacceptable ways.
If we push frontally against the power of the hierarchy-conservators, they will react. People who must maintain their hierarchy often have bigger guns than the rest of us. We can expect HiCons to pull them out when provoked.
Instead, we set them up with the purpose of calling attention to offensive top-of-the-hierarchy behaviors to the widest possible audience. We do not have to lead political movements the size of those led by Gandhi and Martin Luther King. The same strategy works on a smaller scale. We set the proper stage:
It may take some patience to keep giving them enough rope to hang themselves, but it's worth the wait. Knowing the CLUES is essential – for example, the steamroller, people at the top don't see hierarchies, people at the top are not held accountable, and lower people need fixing.
Top people are wonderful advertisements for ending hierarchies when they act out in annoying and repulsive ways. What a great way to market our product of change to the world.
9. Showcase diversity
When people from two or more lower groups in different hierarchies stick together, the customary rhetoric and blame from the top becomes much less effective. Tactics that previously worked to silence and discredit one isolated group fall short.
Individual "isms" (i.e., sexism, racism, etc.) gave us our identities, brought like minds together, taught us about justice, and ushered in decades of change. Now, we can use a language based on our common experiences in different hierarchies to help us form large diverse groups that expand our influence and success.
10. Don't show your hand
Very important — play it close to the vest when dealing with hierarchy conservators. See #5 above to predict what happens to information that you give to the top.
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